Valentine: 10 Sterling Signs That You Are In A Toxic Relationship
This article is basically about red flags that most people ignore in relationships. If you think you are in a toxic relationship, trust your guts and get help. Here are the common signs of unhealthy relationships:
- POSSESSIVENESS.
When someone is jealous to the point where they try to control who you spend time with what you do and where you go.
They don’t allow you to have a life of your own because they expect everything you do to be about them.
- MANIPULATION.
When someone tries to control your decisions, actions, or emotions.
If your partner ever tries to make you behave a certain way by causing you to feel bad about voicing your thoughts and feelings.
It often involves things like gaslighting, threats, and dramatic displays.
All these are signs of toxicity.
- ISOLATION.
When someone keeps you away from friends, family, or other people that are important to you.
Why would you allow your partner to make you cut off contact with other people in your life?
That is a huge red flag.
- SABOTAGE.
When someone purposely ruins your reputation, achievements, or success.
In some cases, a partner could be excessively jealous of your wins.
They feel like they are competing with you.
A toxic partner cannot even stand your success because they feel like you must not be better than them.
Run!! Run!! Fly away from such relationships.
- BELITTLING.
This involves your partner saying or doing things intentionally to make you feel bad about yourself.
They would pick what you’re insecure about (your appearance, height, financial status, etc) and rub it on your face whenever y’all are having issues.
If your partner belittles you jokingly and you are not comfortable with it, call them out on it immediately.
They are supposed to be concerned about your mental health instead of pulling you down with their harsh words.
- GUILT TRIPPING.
When your partner makes you feel responsible for their actions or makes you feel like it’s your job to keep them happy.
- FEELING OUT OF PLACE.
If you can’t be yourself or show your true character in their presence because you are afraid of getting judged, then it’s an unhealthy relationship.
- ABSENCE OF TRUST
If you are constantly afraid of confiding in them because you don’t trust them, think about it again.
It’s a toxic relationship.
Your partner should be your confidante.
You should be able to share issues with them.
- DEFLECTING RESPONSIBILITY.
When your partner repeatedly makes excuses for their unhealthy behavior.
No, they would never take responsibility for what they did.
In some cases, they will blame you for reacting to their irrational behaviors. That is sheer toxicity!
- BETRAYAL.
When a partner is disloyal or acts in an intentionally dishonest way.
Also, when they don’t keep to their words.
And, when they don’t consider cheating as a bad thing neither do they respect your feelings by knowing their boundaries with other people.
These are the most common signs of an unhealthy relationship.
Are you a victim of one?
Muster up the courage and leave while you still can.